We become a combination of the story we tell ourselves and the story that others are telling about us.
In both cases, it's up to each one of us, and our own communities we build to show other people who tell our stories how to share them in a way that as inspiring as the best version of the story that we tell ourselves.
You worked a bit on telling yourself your story in the previous sections. Now it's time to see how and why you might feel that other people tell your story differently and what you might be able to do about it.
Part of this challenge is about accepting your story.
In this short film brought by The Nantucket Project & Harbor Studios, we see and feel that it’s not our habit to accept. We prefer to resist… until life’s inevitable setbacks catch up with us.
This film was created by bestselling author Kelly Corrigan and directed by award-winning journalist Mick Davies. We get tohear the stories of real people struggling to embrace what Corrigan calls the Mount Everest of human emotions: acceptance.
ASSIGNMENT: While you are watching this, think of the skills that you would need to behave in the way that people in this film have behaved. Are you missing any skills that you might be seeing on screen? What are they? How might you obtain them? Would they be useful for your answers on the Loneliness quiz?
Accepting that your lonely and admitting it to just one other person could unlock to the door to a new future.
Jennifer Page, Author of 52 Ways to Stop Feeling Lonely opens her book with the "aha" moment that she is not alone in her feelings of loneliness. She writes,
""It happened when suddenly, on impulse, I confessed to a friend in an email how lonely i felt and then she emailed back and said, "I feel that too!"" . . . much to here surprise, the person to whom she was writing was one of the last people on earth who she thought would feel lonely.
Sharing can be transformative. Just believe that is a giant step in and of itself.